Is ADHD a real medical condition?

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Niall asked the question if ADHD is a real medical condition?

Many people online pass comment that ADHD is really just an excuse for badly behaved children yet other people say that it is a serious medical condition.

We asked our listeners what they thought.

Listen to what they had to say.

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Would you stay in a sexless and loveless marriage?

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Would you stay in a sexless and loveless marriage?

We got an interesting email into the show. It is something we have spoken about on the show before but I think it is a prevalent issue today.

Have a listen to this message.

Hi Niall,

Can you talk about relationships where there is no spark anymore? I am currently in one and it is horrendous. I have been married for 15 years now. For the most part it was a happy marriage but in the last number of years it is gone stale, for lack of a better term.

My wife and I are no longer affectionate or passionate. We sleep in the same bed but that is as close as we ever are. We don’t kiss; we seem to only talk about matters concerning the kids and even watch TV in separate rooms.

I don’t remember an exact moment when things changed to be honest. It was kind of a gradual thing whereby we just stopped being loving towards each other. I think it is an age thing. We are both in our 40s. We haven’t had sex in about five years.

I am not blaming my wife for this by the way; I think it is both of us. What I am questioning though is whether or not we are expected to stay in this relationship. We have two kids who are in their late teens. Our girls still live at home with us. We do things together as a family like go for dinner every now and again but we never do things as a couple.

I have spoken to my brother about this and he said it’s an age thing and that once you get to a certain age in a relationship things start to go like this. I go out with my friends at the weekend for a pint and it is a little escape for me. I enjoy that. I have asked my wife to come but she never wants to so I stopped asking. It is now just assumed that I will go out myself.

I work and provide for my family. I am no dead beat, down and out – but I think as a couple we are in some sort of rut or routine – whatever people want to call it.

Is this normal? Are we expected to stay together? We have never once spoken about breaking up. I don’t know if my wife feels the same as me – she might – or she might be happy with how things are now. I have tried to speak to her about it but it doesn’t ever seem to be resolved.

I would be interested to hear people’s opinions on this – is this normal in a marriage?

What do you think of this person’s email? I feel for the man I really do. I couldn’t imagine being with someone who you don’t speak to, let alone are not intimate with.

Some people say being intimidate is not the be all and end all of a relationship. But if intimacy is not there in a relationship – it can feel like that.

I want to get your views on this tonight – Would you expect this man to stay with his wife?

So – here is the question today – would you stay in a loveless and affectionless marriage?

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Should a ban be placed on evictions until the housing crisis improves?

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Should a ban be placed on evictions until the housing crisis improves?

An extra 488 children became homeless in Ireland last month, with a total number of families in emergency accommodation now over 1,700.

The government last week published its latest report for February, with the figure for homeless adults at 6,052 and the number of homeless children at 3,755.

In an opinion piece with TheJournal.ie this morning, Fr Peter McVerry claimed that the majority of people and families who are becoming newly homeless have been evicted from the private rented sector.

He suggested that “It should be made illegal for the next three years for banks or vulture funds or landlords to evict people onto the street, except in extreme circumstances such as refusal to pay rent or antisocial behaviour,”

Today I want to know what you think – given the current housing situation – should evictions be illegal for three years as suggested.

I read some comments online and there are mixed views on the subject.

Have a listen to some of them;

One person said; No. If you can’t pay for the property you’re living in, you have no rights to be there. End of. The property owner can’t be expected to cover the cost of the tenants living there for free.

Another person said; absolutely bananas, fine if people are genuine but honestly who would want to be a landlord these days

While it seems the majority of people think this idea would be crazy idea there are some who feel the family dwelling needs to be protected. Some say that the banks were bailed out yet the people are being forgotten about.

They say there are genuine cases out there that are being forgotten about.

I know that the issue of strategic defaulting is a concern that many people would have. They would think that people who can’t be evicted for a number of years won’t pay their mortgage.

But what about those who are struggling, they are trying to make ends meet, but ultimately end up out of their home and into a situation where they have no house and are forced into hotels.

I want to know what you think of this. Maybe you are in that situation and believe there should be more protection for families.

Or maybe you disagree completely and think this suggestion is ridiculous.

I want to know what you think.

So – should a ban be placed on evictions until the housing crisis improves?

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INTERVIEW : Garrett O’Dowd Talks Career Breaks For Teachers

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Should teachers have the facility to take a career break?

Niall spoke to Garrett O’Dowd Founder/CEO of Teach and Explore. He tells us of the benefits of teachers being able to take time away from school.

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Do you think all criminals should be given a second chance?

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Do you think criminals deserve a second chance?

The reason I want to ask you this today is because celebrity chef Neven Maguire said he does not regret employing a killer in his award winning restaurant in Co. Cavan.

Gerard Graham is serving a life sentence for battering his girlfriend with a wok and choking her to death.

He works at McNean House and restaurant in Blacklion Co. Cavan as part of a work programme with the Irish prison service.

Graham pleaded guilty o the murder of Dublin woman Charlene McAuliffe in 2002 and was sentenced to life imprisonment.

Neven said that he believes everyone deserves a second chance and that Graham is a good employee.

He told Rte Guide, “this man is a fantastic worker, has been with us for nearly a year, is due to be released next year and we plan to give him full time employment then”

Today I want to know what you think of this.

Do you think criminals, no matter what crime they commit, deserve a second chance?

Would you employ a criminal?

Prison is supposed to be a place to rehabilitate a prisoner so they are able to return to society. With that in mind, should they all be given a second chance so?

Or do you think there are some crimes that should never be forgiven and people should never be offered another chance at life?

I want to know what you think of this.

Do you think all criminals should be given a second chance?

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Should begging be criminalised and people fined?

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Beggars in the Dorset town of Poole will be now issued with fines of £100 from their local council. Despite heavy criticism ‘Public Space Protection Orders’ – as they’re known – will be introduced from mid-April in a bid to “tackle anti-social and nuisance behaviours” according to officials. Fines could also be issued to those found sleeping rough in car parks and doorways.

The policy, also covers drinking alcohol and leaving unattended possessions in the street by homeless people. The policy is aimed at preventing and tackling anti-social behaviour, crime and disorder and protecting individuals and various communities from harm, the council said in a statement.

The initiative will be rolled out in the town centre, Holes Bay, Alexandra Park and the Ashley Road areas. Nearly 4,000 people in Dorset have signed a petition protesting the implementation of the policy. The action by the council has been heavily criticised by local residents including the Bishop of Sherborne.

Labour MP David Lammy called the policy “cruel and pointless.” “Fining people who are homeless and sleeping on the street is one of the most cruel and pointless policies I have ever seen,” he wrote on Twitter. “Why criminalise people for being poor and vulnerable? We need to focus on the support and housing services that homeless people need.”

However Poole councillor Karen Rampton said they wanted the town “to be a safe and welcoming place for everyone who lives, works or visits” adding “We are aware of the increase in anti-social behaviour in the Town Centre and Holes Bay areas and the new measure is a tool we can use, amongst others, to tackle this behaviour. The PSPO will not be used to target any specific group such as those people sleeping rough.

Councillor Rampton says “The council proactively works with individuals to encourage them to use the full range of support available from the council and local charities. Whether this is working with individuals who have a problem with drugs or alcohol, supporting individuals into housing, offering a hot meal and healthcare or providing intensive daily support to enable an individual to sustain a tenancy, we will continue to engage and support wherever possible our most vulnerable members of our community.”

So there you have it. Two very different approaches to dealing with homeless people being in sight and in city centre areas. This is something that we get contacted about at the show on a regular basis. Many people have said that they are sick and tired of being harassed at the ATM, on the bus and even at church and would like to see tough measures implemented to stop this behaviour.

On the other had there are people who say that kicking someone when they are down on their luck is something that should not be encouraged by councils and the government. There are genuinely people who are down on their luck and may find themselves homeless and begging just to survive. So tonight I want to ask you the question – Should begging be criminalised and homeless people fined like that in the UK?

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Do you think it is inappropriate to breastfeed in public in front of children?

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Do you think it is inappropriate to breastfeed in public in front of children?

We got an interesting email into the show that I want you to have a listen to.

It says;

Hi Niall,

I listened to your show yesterday about parenting and heard a caller talk about breastfeeding. It reminded me of something I saw at the weekend that maybe you might be interested in talking about.

I was out with my two young kids in a well known child friendly restaurant. I was treating the kids and we were having a bit of a day out.

Anyway a woman and her partner and their new baby were at the table next to us when all of a sudden she whipped out her breast for all to see and started to breastfeed. She didn’t cover up at all and was almost exhibitioning what she was doing for all to see.

My children who are 8,5 and 3 saw her and started to ask me what she was doing and why she had her lady bits out. They were giggling but I was so uncomfortable!

I am a mother and have breastfed my children but if they needed to be fed in public I would go to a quiet room and if I couldn’t I would completely cover myself so that nobody could see me.

It is not that I was embarrassed but I would have respect for other people who might be uncomfortable. Lately I am seeing this trend of women who just do not have any respect for other people around them just like this woman I saw at the weekend.

There were many parents with their children and she did not care. She had it all out for everyone to see.

I am pro breastfeeding myself but I think we need to have a little bit of decorum about it in public.

Can you please talk about this on your show?

Thanks

What do you think of this woman’s message? Do you think she has a point?

Is it inappropriate to breastfeed in public when other people even kids are around?

Or do you think she is wrong, that it is a natural thing to do and there is no reason to feel uncomfortable around it?

I asked people around the office today and some said it was no big deal and people need to get over themselves. Others said they would be uncomfortable if a woman breastfed in front of them.

So it was fairly split down the middle.

Today I want to know what you think of this email.

Do you think this woman is wrong or can you understand where she is coming from?

So – do you think there is something inappropriate about breastfeeding in public?

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Should paternity leave be longer than two weeks?

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Should paternity leave be longer?

I read an interesting article today written by Cork Labour party representative Eric Nolan.

In it he talks about gender equality and inequality, gender pay gap, gender quotas, maternity leave, parenting and paternity leave.

He mentions that as a father he found it very difficult to return to work after a few days, having seen how much his wife went through in bringing their child into the world.

He said it felt wrong to be heading out the door when he knew there was more he could do at home to help.

He also says that he couldn’t help think that he was missing out on some important bonding time with their baby.

As you know the Government introduced two weeks paternity leave which came into effect in September 2016 but Eric said in his article that if we truly want gender equality then we need to significantly increase paternity leave.

I am going to speak to Eric about this in more detail but before I do I want to ask you if you think we need to do more for new parents in Ireland.

Before paternity leave was introduced, new fathers had to take holidays from work to be with their new born and their partner. Many companies give fathers a few days off to be nice but most new fathers have had to use up holiday days.

New dads receive €230 in state support per week, and they can take that fortnight’s leave at any time in the first six months of their newborn’s life.

Many countries allow paid parental leave to be split by parents in whatever way they wish. Eric mentions Iceland in his article where both parents get three months, with another three months to be split according to their preference. This leave is paid at 80% of their salary.

Although this sounds like a wonderful thing for parents and families, the reality is that businesses would no doubt suffer.

Many small business owners think the current paternity leave entitlements are pain in the back side. They see it as being down a man for two weeks as well as their usual holiday allotment.

Varadkar at the time encouraged employers to top up men’s pay to their full salary while on leave.

The word ‘bonding’ has been used a lot in this debate….that fathers need this time to bond with their new born child. Do you believe that the state should pay for fathers to bond with their child?

There are many fathers out there who believe that the paid paternity leave is too little and not enough time is being given.

Some have suggested 2 or 3 months would be fairer.

Today I want to know what you think.

Should paternity leave be longer than two weeks?

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